If humans would have the inherent characteristic to be alone and happy, perhaps the population would be a lot less and each one us would be occupying our own personal island. However, fortunately and unfortunately, we are highly evolved individuals, for whom to love and to be loved is a very basic necessity. Hence being in a relationship is an option which we do choose, to ensure our “Happily ever after life.”
But, with time only the relationship is left behind, with little or no happiness. This happens because we tend to forget what a relationship really means.
This is what being in a relationship really means:
1. Having faith, freedom and friendship
You need to have faith. A constant nagging or a skeptical attitude will ruin the relationship. You need to have the freedom to speak for yourself, freedom to follow your heart and the freedom to make your own choices, while you are enjoying the relation with a bondage of friendship. Being in a relation means a balance between the freedom and bondage.
2. Giving and getting the time
Women want someone to understand them whereas men often want someone to connect to them through watching a football match or playing video games with them. Hence giving and getting time, is one important aspect of being in a relationship.
3. Being Patience
It takes time to give and get time, so be patient. Accepting your partner with his/her imperfections, needs patience. Things will be perfect, with a little patience. There is no point in having daily fights over routine habits of your partner. He/she needs time to change himself/herself.
4. Being Able to Share
Sharing feelings, emotions, finances, thoughts, words and actions enables you to spend some quality time with your partner. This makes you feel complete in your own world of two people. When you share, you connect. When you connect, then the relationship begins.
5. Being the Strength
Everyone has a time in life when they feel low. This is when being with your partner makes you stronger. When someone believes in you, when someone motivates you, inspires you, strengthens you, then you realize what being in a relationship really means. It means being strong together, living as a team.
Being in relationship means being in love. Love means acceptance: Praise the good, accept the flaws and provide the inspiration to change. Love is neither a moment nor a feeling, it is the existence of togetherness.
7. Being yourself
You don’t need to act or be someone else just to impress your partner. Being in a relationship means being yourself. Everyone is different and being in a relation allows you to celebrate the mutual difference!
8. Being the best version of yourself
Being in a relationship means that you partner not only accepts you the way you are, but also inspires you to be the best version of yourself. Most of the successful people owe their success to the daily inspirations provided to them by their partners.
9. Allowing yourselves to miss each other
Go for a vacation with your friends, Find time for your own passions. Being together 24/7 doesn’t help much because it is important that you allow yourself to miss your partner.
10. Being an individual
Have your own identity. Don’t be afraid to try new things just because your partner is not there with you. Have your own identity. This will allow you to share a different perspective with your partner. Life is interesting only because of the differences and the individuality.
Hence being in a relationship means to live, to love, to smile, to exist with joy!!
There is certainly a way to sort out every difference, you just need the will and the faith strong enough, to make the relationship fruitful. You need to remember, that you enter into a relationship to be happy, and you must be!!