Sometimes as a guy you might think you and your chick are close, but she feels really distant.

Well, she isn’t feeling that way for no reason. Chances are, your actions are really pushing her away without realizing it. Here are signs you need to know.

1. You are very inconsistent.

One moment you are so much into her and the next moment you are just cold.  One moment you are spoiling her and the next you are just boring. Women are not fond of inconsistent guys. They want to understand you and when they can’t understand you, they’ll look for a way out. If you are going to be aggressive, be aggressive all the time and if you are going to be laid back then be that guy. If you keep mixing,she might think you are a pretender.

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2. You are giving too much, too soon.

Of course, men can be clingy too. We can be more clingy than a tick on a fat cow’s skin. Sometimes when we find a woman who really catches our attention, the excitement can be a little overwhelming and we may come on stronger than we intend to. This, particularly for a more independent type of woman, can be kryptonite and push her away immediately. Don’t tell her how much you liked sex with her or how amazing your date with her was. Those are actually a woman’s things to say. Don’t be worried about coming across as uninterested, you will actually likely be helping yourself rather than hurting yourself.

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3. You don’t get her.

You need to make sure you learn about your woman – what makes her click and what disappoints herIf you do not put in the effort to become in-tune with her operating system, you will never be able to form the type of deep, emotional connection that a healthy relationship should possess.

Make sure you put in the time and effort to communicate with her, listen to her, and pay attention to the things she is saying to you when she’s not actually speaking.This way, you will gain a greater understanding of the woman you love and ultimately be able to bring more happiness to you both as individuals and to your relationship.



 4.  You don’t believe in yourself.

Women want men who are doing great things in life and if they can’t find such men, they want a man who believes he is doing great things in life. belief eventually brings success. Don’t be afraid to tell her things like “Beby,  I think I am the best employee in my company” or “I wanna be the most successful doctor in Kenya.” Ambition is admirable. Even if you don’t end up achieving such things she will be glad she has a man who at least tries.


5. You’re all about yourself.

You might not have low self-esteem but then your self-esteem might be higher than Kilimanjaro. In fact, you might so full of yourself that you might as well be dating yourself. When the woman you’re dating asks how you are and you spend the rest of the hour talking about yourself, you are going to lose points faster than modern day Manchester United.

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6. You complain too much.

They say nothing can make a party go poop faster than a party pooper—and that could be you if you don’t do anything but whine and whine and whine. Save your complaints for once in awhile if you think she’s not at her best. Doing it every day will make her feel unappreciated. Trust me, there’s nothing worse than an unappreciated girl. You will just discover that the male colleague of hers took your spot.


7. You’re stingy.

Whether you like it or not, we are living in a materialistic society. Everyone wants the finer things in life. Women today are much more independent and are proud of it. They work for what they have but they are wired to expect a man to provide.That’s just how it is. If you’re a sleaze in footing the bill, don’t expect her to go on this journey with you all the way. You don’t have to shower her with gifts all the time. Just show her that you can take good care of her and treat her.


8. You’re too obsessed with sex.

Don’t let sex be the star of your relationship. Every woman appreciates a good banging from time to time but it shouldn’t be what your association with her is all about. Women will think you are not interested in them and are instead only interested in getting laid—which, of course, may be true but you don’t have to show it.


9. You don’t make her a priority.

Women may demand a lot of things from you, but once you hit the right buttons, you’re set for life. If you are serious about a girl, you should make her a priority. If you don’t have time for a serious relationship, don’t start one. If you can’t give your girl enough time, then this will become a problem, and she’ll start moving away. Who wants to be with someone who feels like a ghost in the relationship? No one.

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10. You keep talking about your exes.

Women aren’t generally as competitive as men. As men, we always want to outdo the ex but women aren’t like that. If you think she’ll make an effort to be the best girlfriend you want her to be by talking about how your ex used to do this or that, you’re absolutely wrong. Women don’t want to go out with someone with extra baggage. Besides, all your loud musings about how your ex-used to prepare you delicious mayai for breakfast isn’t going to make her cook you an even better turkey. Instead, she might leave you for thinking you are too attached to your ex.



11.  You’re rude to her and other people.

You talk to her like you are King Henry the fifth and she is your gardener. You text her back like she is one of those Kamiti fellas who spend spam texts. Even if she’s too into you, there’s no need to be rude to her.  Always respect your girlfriend and other people as well.if she sees you are being rude to other people she might get worried about the future as well.

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