9 women reveal sex secrets

In an attempt to make some sense of the whole messy business of sex, I wrote a probably award-winning blog on what men love about it.

Men do the do for many reasons: ranging from ‘power’ to ‘connection’ to ‘boobies’. The tits.

But what about women? What do women love about sex? It can’t just be a time-filler between the BBC news where you are and ‘Enders, right? From the power they get to the romantic rush to the orgasms, here’s what they say: Alison, 38, from Grays ‘The best thing about sex, if you’re in love, is the romantic rush. And if you’re not in love, it’s the illicit thrills. So it’s all psychological, really – not physical.’ Ah, that old ‘the brain is the biggest organ’ thang.


Jan, 30, from Horsham ‘It’s true. Great sex for me isn’t necessarily down to him having a great body or a great penis – it’s about how the whole encounter makes me feel. ‘I love to orgasm, yep, but that’s not what I love most about sex. I love what’s going on in my head most. ‘Am I feeling closer to this person? Am I feeling naughty because we shouldn’t be doing this? Those are the turn-ons.’ Melanie, 26, from west London The brain feels are getting all the feels from Melanie, too. ‘I love sex. I love physically how it feels. I love coming. But what I really love is how it makes me feel during – connected or protected or lusted after or cheap or whatever (it all depends on the man or the woman and the situation) – and how it makes me feel after. ‘You give off that ‘just f***ed’ glow, don’t you? Which I swear people notice and fancy. That’s what I love the most about sex: the horny aftermath.’ Wendy, 37, from Littlehampton ‘I love how sex takes my mind off the s*** that’s going on in my life. It’s the best distraction. ‘Seriously, in the way people comfort-eat; I comfort-f***. ‘Luckily, my partner doesn’t seem to mind. When we’re in bed, it’s me and him and I don’t think about crappy work or crappy debts or crappy people. I recommend this form of diversion-therapy!’


Michelle, 41, from south London ‘Is it bad to say I really love sex because it’s really good for my ego? ‘Men say my body is hot – so I love that attention. I love that I feel Goddess-like when we’re f***ing. I don’t really care if I come – I just want all the compliments and how great the adoration makes me feel. ‘And I take that out of the bedroom. Makes me feel more confident in the rest of my life. Is that bad?’ It’s only bad because that will never happen to Weeble me. God I miss my feet. Jas, 29, from Croydon ‘Do you mean which sex acts I like best? ‘I like anal. It doesn’t make me come; but knowing men love it turns me on. ‘Them going down on me makes me come. If the technique is good and not too nibbly. ‘But the thing I love most? I love it when my man comes. Watching his face concentrate hard; hearing his breathing change. It is so sexy, so animalistic, so basic in that moment. ‘They can be young, old, a high-flying lawyer, or unemployed and broke. Doesn’t matter. In that moment, everything else about them disappears. They’re just a man coming.’ And why do you love that, Jas? ‘Because I’m making it happen. They are coming because of me. Makes me feel all-powerful.’ Clem, 35, from Marlow ‘The power sex gives me is everything. I decide what’s going to happen; what I’m going to do to them or not. And they are totally in my control. ‘If you don’t think women can rule the world, you’ve never seen a woman with a man’s cock in her mouth.’ What a moving image. I feel quite choked now.


Maya, 30, from Oxford ‘I just love being intimate with someone. Being held. Being in bed with them. Cuddling up together. All warm and soft. It just feels so lovely. That sweetness is what makes you stay together, isn’t it?’ Jo, 32, also from Oxford ‘Cuddles? I want proper pounding sex that makes me feel alive. The man has to be a beast! I want ‘lift me up and throw me around’ sex. ‘Has to be a great physical fit. That’s what I love about sex. When we ‘fit’ and I orgasm and orgasm. Emotional fit, yes, but physically is way more important to me. ‘The last man I was with, it was so disappointing. He made me laugh, he was clever, he was really interesting, but the sex was horribly poor. We didn’t fit. I remember thinking ‘F***, I’d marry him if his dick worked.” And on that beautiful note…

Source: metro.co.uk