The thought of staying in another home after your wedding can be really scary. After living your life entirely under the supreme love and warmth of your parents, adjusting in a different home can be terrifying. Mostly, you wonder how your in-laws will be, especially your mother-in-law because she’s the most important person in the family. Her approval and love are worth a thousand words.
In such instances, we salute those MILs who understand the modern culture and let their daughters do whatever they want. Understanding that the bride has come from a different family, used to a different lifestyle until now, is the most respectful thing mothers can do. They understand that they need time to adjust within the new family and accept the rules and regulations slowly.
We bring to you a few points that you can consider when a new bride comes to your family. 1. Treat her like a daughter Marriages are a sacred ritual that ties people together for life. Hence, even if the bride has come from another family and is someone else’s daughter, it is your sole responsibility as a mother-in-law to treat and welcome her warmly in your home. Don’t become a typical mother-in-law and stop her from doing whatever she likes. If you have a daughter and allow her freedom to do what she likes, then allow your daughter-in-law to do the same. 2. Be an inspiration A woman idolises her mother her whole life but also starts to appreciate and love her mother-in-law after she gets married. As a woman, she looks to you as an elder and wants guidance and inspiration. You should set an example for her on how to balance her life as a wife and a working woman. Show and make her realise that one can lead a successful life by balancing her family and career well. Your guidance and advice will always inspire her.
3. Praise her
A few compliments never hurt anybody. In fact, they can make someone really happy. If you see goodness in your daughter-in-law, then appreciate her for the same. Openly praise her in front of others. Praises always boost a person's confidence and make them feel cared for. This way, your daughter will feel really loved and start considering you like her real parent. Even if she does mistakes, teach her slowly with love.
4. Always motivate her
Besides praises and compliments, show her that you completely support her life and career decisions. If her working hours are strenuous, then care for her when she comes back home, just like you would do to your son. Sometimes, if you don’t agree with her decision, make her understand and guide her accordingly, instead of being angry.
If you possess these qualities or you haven’t till now, shower some love to your daughter. If you love and dote on her, she will also take care and adore you the same way.