After saying she doesn’t stay friends with her mates when they become pregnant and that masturbation should be taught at schools, controversial writer Nadia Bakodiais has shared her views on marriage.

She’s said it’s for idiots.

The Australian blogger who writes for SheSaid has argued that educated adults who choose to marry are fools as the idea of monogamy is simply ‘not in our DNA’.

Although the 34-year-old has previously been married for almost a decade, she has now warned other people against it.

‘It’s not natural to have sex with the same person over and over again,’ she told Metro.co.uk.

‘Personal opinions aside, research into human relationships overwhelmingly indicates that, try as we might, we’re simply not built to stick with one person for life’.

Nadia argued that while human beings have the capacity to form meaningful, complex connections with one another, long-lasting fidelity is not in our DNA.

She pointed out that her stance was not a justification to cheat on your partners which she called a great betrayal and was something she was guilty of.

‘While I don’t believe in the institution of marriage, I’m in a very happy monogamous relationship. I don’t feel the need to declare on paper or in a church that our relationship is official for it to mean something.

‘I very much believe in love, just not a sacrament rooted in the premise of “owning” another human being.’

There’s a greater chance of you dying in a plane crash than being with someone long term who doesn’t stray, she added.

Nadia said it’s the institution of marriage that she hates.

‘It doesn’t even align with our modern values. We spend tens of thousands to tell a bunch of family, friends, and people we barely know that we are going to let another human own us.

‘To have and to hold – the very idea that any one of us should be able to possess another person is archaic nonsense.

‘When these vows first came into popular practice, the average adult lifespan was 30 years. Now it’s 70. That’s more than two lives! If having another person stake their ownership of you for a decade was a bearable sacrifice back then, doing it for more than triple that now is just good old-fashioned masochism.’

‘A woman dresses in white to symbolize her purity for her new male owner-to-be, is walked down an aisle to be “given away” by her father (because, after all, fathers should “own” their daughters’ body autonomy) and then, after literally pledging her life away, is told by another man (a priest) that her new owner can kiss her,’ she added.

‘Stop and think about how deeply unhealthy that sounds.’

Nadia also said it’s better to be single or in an open relationship than being stuck in a toxic or abusive one, like her mother.

‘It always seemed like a sick punishment to me, watching my mum’s best years stolen away from her by an abusive father, all because she had made a promise to him and signed a piece of paper.’

She’s not against love though, she stressed. She cited her grandparents who’ve been happily married for 60 years and revealed she’s smitten with her boyfriend, but marriage just isn’t on the horizon for her.

So what are we supposed to do then, you might ask. Nadia said it might be better to adopt more modern ideals like polyamory, an open marriage, or, if you fancy it, long-term singledom.

Source: Metro.co.uk